Stop Confusing Love With Enabling

MarriageToday with Jimmy & Karen Evans

XO Marriage

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🗓️ 15 February 2024

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Welcome to the MarriageToday Podcast! Join Jimmy and Karen Evans as we unpack the difference between love and enabling in relationships. We get real about codependency, sharing personal stories, and tackling tough issues like addiction and boundaries. Tune in for a fresh perspective on love and relationships! ----------------------- Need Marriage Help?: https://xomarriage.com/marriage-help/ Need a romantic Date? Register here for XO24 Conference from the comfort of your home! :https://www.xonow.com/pages/xo-now-at-home More resources from our team: https://store.xomarriage.com/products/married-into-the-family Grab a copy of our new book:https://store.xomarriage.com/collections/black-friday-exclusives/products/i-will ----------------------- Takeaways Enabling is doing something that encourages your spouse to continue in a negative behavior. Codependency is a relationship where both partners are unhealthy and dependent on each other's unhealth. Setting healthy boundaries is crucial in preventing enabling behavior. True love means loving imperfections but not enabling self-destruction. ----------------------- Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Love vs Enabling 00:33 Enabling vs Codependency 01:02 Enabling in Extreme Situations 02:00 Setting Healthy Boundaries 03:24 Negative Behavior and Destructive Relationships04:20Entitlement and Self-Centeredness 05:44 Loving Imperfections but Not Enabling Self-Destruction 07:09 God's Resistance to Pride and Grace for the Humble 08:38 Taking Responsibility in Destructive Relationships 09:33 Manipulation and Enabling 11:02 Knowing Each Other's Past and Recognizing Red Flags 12:00 True Love: Telling the Truth and Taking Action 12:29 Resources and Help for Destructive Relationships 13:12 Conclusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Why are you listening to this podcast?
0:02.0	When there are puddles to be jumped in?
0:04.0	Come on, let's get outside and play.
0:09.0	All we need is a pair of wellies in the pot of pettvello. It's made with calcium and put him in D for immune
0:17.0	support. My mom says healthy mischief needs healthy bones. and she knows best most of the time.
0:27.0	Adventure awaits with Petty Faloo. Welcome to Mary's Day podcast. I'm Jimmy Evans. I'm joined here today by my wife,
0:38.0	Karen. Hello, it's good to be here. Good to have you hear this program today.
0:42.0	We're talking about not confusing love with
0:46.5	enabling. Now enabling, that's the word that we never heard when we got married, you know,
0:51.4	that wasn't even understood back.
0:53.3	No.
0:54.9	Enabling is doing something that encourages your spouse
1:00.2	to continue in a negative behavior.
1:03.0	So what's the difference between enabling codependency?
1:06.0	Co-dependency?
1:07.0	Well, it's a lot the same.
1:08.0	A coddependent relationship means I need to be needed.
1:12.0	You know, and I'm unhealthy and you're unhealthy and we
1:14.7	were co-dependent on each other's unhealth. See it for example Karen so I had a
1:20.5	I had a this is an extreme situation I'll admit that but it shows you what
1:24.8	enabling is so I had a woman that her husband had broken her jaw broken her arm and
1:30.6	put her in the hospital twice and she blamed it on herself. Okay and see every
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