My name is Will DeFrees and this is the Sunday Scaries Podcast.

You are here for the Sunday Blues.

What are your coping mechanisms?

No, I'm not just talking about lighting a set of candles or frothing your milk in the

morning.

Think about a time you were angry.

Really angry.

And then think about what made you feel better.

For pretty much my entire life, I never handled those negative emotions very well.

Anger, sadness, loneliness, whatever it may be.

Rather than ever doing something about it, about feeling a certain way, I'd simply

let those emotions marinate, which in return caused those emotions to really never go

away.

The side effects of handling adversity like this began to run rampant for me.

I'd complain to friends or family who have other things going on in their life.

I'd allow my brain to go down wormholes further stressing myself out about possible

scenarios that I'd make up in my head.

It was an unhealthy cycle, but not one I was necessarily willing to break, mainly because

I didn't really see an issue with it because I wasn't that self-aware.

It wasn't until I got engaged that I sat down and actually understood my natural way

of dealing with stresses, at least in the immediate wake-up of feeling that stress.

When we sat down for prematural counseling, we ran through a scenario that I don't think

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