Most of the nation real quick if you are a business owner that has a big old business and wants to get to a much bigger business going to $50 $100 million plus we would love to talk to you and if you like that or would like to hear more about it go to acquisition.com and you can plan anywhere on the page and talk to one of our team and see if we can help you get there to understand is to forgive you can't understand and be angry at the same time it's actually really difficult the moment you really truly understand where someone is coming from and see their perspective truly it's really difficult.

The wealthiest people in the world see business as a game this podcast the game is my attempt at documenting the lessons I've learned on my way to build a acquisition.com and to a billion dollar portfolio my hope is that you use the lessons to grow your business and maybe someday soon partner with us to get $200 million beyond I hope you share and enjoy I was going to originally call this how to deal with shit but instead I'm going with no pain no game and so I wanted to outline two of the strategies that I think have helped me

become more resilient in the face of like a mental strife and I think that as we continue to grow in entrepreneurship and the size of our countries grow and impact etc like having strong processes mental processes in place in order to safeguard yourself become more and more important and so one of the ones that I wanted to bring up is around anger and so I think whenever anything bad happens right there's typically one of two responses either you become angry or you become sad right

sometimes they happen in different order you know like some people never get sad some people never get angry some people get both you know it's just kind of it's a mix. I can really only speak to the anger side because I'm just not I'm not like a sad like I just don't go that way like when something bad happens because immediately if I have a feeling of sadness I get angry with myself for feeling that way for feeling weak and not taking control and then I get angry you know what I mean so it's almost immediate but then what happens is what do you do with that anger and so for I did I

said like why do we get angry right we get angry because typically we feel wrong right and so that immediately comes from a place of elevation like you feel like you were above something how dare someone do something to you and it's typically someone who you brought into your circle who then betrays you in a certain whatever that be now in a business context there's but there's lots of different types of betrayal and relationships there's lots of different types of betrayal but usually it's just you feel wrong right it's it's typically when a promise is made or an unspoken promise is made and then it is broke.

Right and then that is where you feel like justice is warranted right and so since you don't see that person suffering for the feeling that you have you want to make them suffer right and that's kind of where the anger comes from at least in my understanding.

So any deal with this right because the bigger you get the more times we were going to break things or break what you conceived to be relationships and do things that are wrong like the amount of times we I mean just I wish I could give you a laundry list of all the things that have happened you know what I mean to give context but like

and it's a partnership stealing money like I mean like like literally you know the employees going behind your back try to tell people refunding against you and that they're going to do something for like everything you can possibly imagine right you know it's everything you can imagine has happened right and I think that in order to continue to grow you need to have really strong processes in place in order to process these things where they will destroy you right they'll destroy you and so there's two cornerstone stories that shaped my life that I wanted to share with you so the first one is

from when I was in high school and I was in ninth grade at a teacher named Steve Gibbons he's the one who stayed with me after school a lot of the after school donations stuff that we do is is a big part because of that but he worked out with me after school every day and so when I was in ninth grade I remember I was such an angry kid but I think a lot of people you know I mean ninth grade like you're confused your kid whatever but I was I was a pretty angry kid and he I was like man I can't wait to come back at the at the high school reunion I'm going to show everyone you know blah blah blah blah and he was like I was like I was like I was like I was like

that doesn't that doesn't actually work in reality and I was like what do you mean is I was like I'm going to show them and he was like if you actually come back ten years from now and you go somebody who was like but you and you tell them that like look at you now he's like you're going to look like an idiot because they're going to know that you've been thinking about them this whole time they didn't even think about you like they forgot you existed. He's like so there's you can't do that because then you actually have already lost and I was like shit like what do I like you know I mean how do I get this out you know I mean I'll get this this rage out what do I do you know I'm not

too right and so you let me with a statement that whenever I get really angry about something I turn to which is success is the only revenge and so that's been something that's always cycled in my head whenever I get really upset about something like really angry where I feel like someone wronged me it's success is the only revenge because it's the only thing you can do if you think about it there's nothing else you can do right you can't go hurt people that's not going to serve you you're going to get hurt in the long run right

there's a lot of people who've said this statement but I like a lot which is like being angry is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die right and so all it is you just brood and get angry and you become less effective right and so then and then sometimes it starts turning towards yourself you start becoming self destructive instead of destroying the other person and then it's like then they win even more and then it makes you more angry you know I mean it's so this it's a cycle and so the only way that I've been able to break that is by understanding and continually repeating that which is like success is the only revenge which then allows you to

trouble me just taking a negative emotion and getting a positive positive outcome from it and so I learned about that with that is sublimation is like when you are upset go for a run and then all of a sudden something that was negative in your life becomes a benefit because of positive right and so for me and obviously depends on the on the level of the grievance that you're going through how much anger you have and how much you need to expend in order to kind of come back to baseline right is with the initial burst of rage and I think I would describe it more as rage or at least that's how I I experience it

just like you know what I mean but for me it's the only way that I've been able to get around that stuff and the thing is is the the longer in the game the more things like this will happen just because you're exposed to it by the nature of time right you're going to be wrong for more times the bigger you are and the longer you stay in right more beat up you are in the arena and so the only way you can stay in is to keep yourself in is to keep your head straight and so success is the only revenge and so channel everything into that into the thing that's gonna be the only

revenge you have which is continuing to succeed and yeah that's it so that's that's like cornerstone story number one that has has helped lead deal with anger and that's in the immediate so how to diffuse it in the moment when you want to go and write some nasty face with poster do some really mean live or blah blah blah whatever it is right whatever you have that feeling and you type it up like I shouldn't send this like you probably should right and just remembering that it's like been ingrained in my mind and maybe it's because it was such a young age that I heard it but it was like I

of so angry at that time.

And then that's when I started lifting harder.

You know what I mean?

She's like, take it out on the weight band.

And so he helped me push that in the right direction.

But I'm always grateful for it.

And obviously as you get older, sometimes like you can

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