Terri Cole: High-Functioning Codependency—Breaking the Cycle

Sounds True: Insights at the Edge

Tami Simon

Religion, Religion & Spirituality

4.6 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 15 October 2024

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

High-functioning codependency? That's not an oxymoron. For psychotherapist Terri Cole, a pattern emerged in her practice that led her to take a deeper look at what we traditionally define as codependent. With her new book, Too Much, Terri introduces high-functioning codependency (or HFC)—illuminating the key traits and behaviors associated with HFC, how it gets passed from generation to generation, and how we can finally break the cycle to reclaim our time, energy, and independence.

Join Sounds True founder Tami Simon in conversation with Terri Cole about: giving unsolicited advice; the habit of auto-accommodating; the FAQ "is this codependent, controlling, or caring?"; the compulsive nature of codependency; when efforts to help backfire; allowing others to experience the consequences of their actions; giving without resentment; how to know if you’re an HFC; taking a resentment inventory; the emotional drivers of HFC; the environmental factors that propagate codependency; self-awareness on the path of recovery; tolerating the discomfort of changing our behaviors; the connection between being easily defensive and HFC; letting go of defensiveness as an HFC; getting back to your "just right"; and more.

Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

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0:00.0	Hello friends. My name is Tammy Simon and I'm the founder of Sounds True and I want to welcome you to the Sounds True podcast, Insights at the Edge. I also want to take a moment to introduce you to Sounds True's new membership
0:16.1	community and digital platform. It's called Sounds True One. Sounds True One features original premium transformational docu series, community events, classes to start your day and relax in the evening. Special weekly live shows including a
0:36.8	video version of Insights at the Edge with an after-show community question and answer session with featured guests.
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0:54.3	Sounds True.com. I also want to take a moment and introduce you to the
0:59.0	sounds true foundation, our nonprofit that creates equitable access to transformational tools and
1:07.3	teachings. You can learn more at sounds true foundation.org and advance, thank you for your support.
1:18.0	In this episode of Insights at the Edge,
1:20.0	my guest is Terry Cole.
1:22.8	Terry is a dynamic writer and educator.
1:27.4	She has a special gift for making complex psychological concepts actionable and accessible.
1:36.1	She's a licensed psychotherapist, a global relationship expert, and the author of Boundary Boss and the
1:45.0	relationship expert and the Boundary Boss workbook.
1:46.0	She's also the host of the popular podcast,
1:50.0	The Terry Cole Show,
1:52.0	and she's the author of a new book from Sounds True and that's what we're
1:55.6	going to be talking about in this edition of Insights at the Edge. It's called
1:59.8	Too Much a Guide to breaking the cycle of high functioning codependency.
2:06.7	And you can learn more about this new book and receive special bonus gifts when you go to HFC, high functioning codependency, that's what the
2:18.4	initials stand for, HFC Book.com, that's HFC Book.com, that's HFC Book.com. That's HFC Book.com.
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