The Speaking Coach: The One Word All Liars Use! Stop Saying This Word, It's Making You Sound Weak! The More You Do This, The More You Sound Like A Liar!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

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Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.6 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2025

⏱️ 137 minutes

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How do you communicate like a top lawyer and command respect? Jefferson Fisher reveals the courtroom-tested tricks that win cases AND everyday conversations Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer, communication expert, and host of ‘The Jefferson Fisher Podcast’, where he teaches how to communicate with confidence. He is also the bestselling author of the upcoming book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’. In this conversation, Jefferson and Steven discuss topics such as, how to make people agree with you instantly, the body language tricks that make you sound powerful, the habits that make you sound like a liar, and how to stop people from walking all over you. 00:00 Intro 02:17 Who Is Jefferson Fisher and What Is His Mission? 02:41 What Is a Trial Attorney? 03:24 My Job Is Convincing People to Believe Me 03:54 Where Jefferson Learned His Skills 04:57 Why Communication Matters 06:48 The Importance of Being a 10/10 Communicator 08:06 Negative Feelings From Poor Communication 09:00 Why Do People Listen to Jefferson? Why Do They Come to Him? 10:01 First Impressions vs. the Next Conversations 11:32 The Pause and Breathing Technique (Actionable) 17:18 Making Others Trust You 22:45 How Insecurities Affect Your Communication 24:24 How to Say Anything With Confidence 28:54 Why You Need to Say Fewer Words 33:00 Having an Assertive Voice 35:50 What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common? 37:19 Say Things to Connect 40:01 Should Our Aim Be to Win the Argument? 42:30 Why Winning the Argument Can Feel Bitter-Sweet 45:31 How to Have an Effective Conversation 52:23 How the Past and Your Identity Can Trigger You 58:50 What to Do When You're Disrespected 1:07:11 Why People Are Rude to You 1:14:50 How to Prepare for Any Difficult Conversation 1:17:28 Pause for a Second When You're Being Disrespected 1:25:50 Ads 1:26:49 The Importance of Body Language 1:30:18 Famous Cases Supporting This Body Language Principle 1:35:54 The Counterintuitive Technique to Win in Life 1:41:04 Become a Master of Small Talk 1:44:39 What I Learned From Abraham Lincoln 1:47:25 You Control the Power of the Tongue 1:49:13 How to Implement All the Tricks and Advice Into Your Life 1:51:09 Ads 1:53:19 How to Say No 2:02:23 Filler Words 2:07:02 What You Say to Your Kid Will Have a Huge Impact 2:10:07 What Would You Tell Your Younger Self? Follow Jefferson: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/Uh6ulIkkJRb YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/c9fYOfmkJRb You can pre-order Jefferson’s book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/xO1NLrikJRb Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY Vivobarefoot - https://vivobarefoot.com/DOAC with code DOAC20 for 20% off Perfect Ted - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	When somebody is belittling you or being rude or being disrespectful,
0:04.0	what we typically want to do is throw it right back because now we've got to win.
0:08.0	Instead of that, here's what I would want you to do.
0:10.0	One, you're going to have five to seven seconds of silence.
0:15.0	Two, you're going to ask them to say it again.
0:19.0	Because a lot of time in arguments, people take it back. And three, this is where it gets fun. I want you to say it again because a lot of time in arguments people take it back and three this is
0:22.4	where it gets fun I want you to say that's where your real power is because it shows that you're the
0:28.6	one in control and they're the ones that are not I'm Jefferson Fisher I'm a board certified trial
0:33.7	attorney and I help people resolve conflict resolve resolve problems. And I can change two words
0:39.9	and change your life just by what you decide to say next because what you say truly has the power
0:46.6	to change everything. For example, I teach that you never want to win an argument. When you look to win an argument, you will often lose the relationship.
0:57.9	That's your prize, congrats.
0:59.3	So instead of seeing arguments as something to win, see them as something to unravel.
1:03.5	And if you can just ask them the question, what am I missing?
1:05.7	I promise you, that is the most effective tool that you can use for a difficult conversation.
1:10.4	What about when you're dealing with someone that you don't like?
1:13.6	The secret to dealing with someone you don't like is to...
1:16.3	And then, could you explain to me this image here?
1:18.7	So this is all about how to say no.
1:21.3	And how does one learn that?
1:22.5	Start with...
1:23.3	Then end with...
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