if you are around in September over Labor Day and you want to go on our retreat.

If you're interested, it'll be up on the website.

We're also going to be doing, I think, recovery, darma event in Philadelphia June 15th and finally we were

really fortunate to find this space I think the space is really beautiful and calming and pretty easy to get to and it's right next to the East River so you can go down and look at the Williamsburg Bridge and have dinner at any one of 10,000 restaurants around beer. So I do have to pay for the use of the space to the centers if you can.

Again, we don't turn anyone away and whatever you donate is entirely up to you.

If you do have $10, that's really what kind of pays for the use of space but if that's in any

way of stress don't worry about it. Fine if you can give five dollars that's great. That's all the announcements. I'm going to be talking about the sense of shame, especially what's known as toxic shame, which is a sense of

a sense of there's something broken, unlovable, damaged about me, my essence, my identity.

I'm going to be talking about how it starts and then how we address it and change the way we feel about ourselves and why the way we feel about ourselves is so vitally important. So our sense of self is constructed in early childhood

over the course of tens of thousands of thousands of interactions

between us as infants and parents.

And basically what human nervous systems do

is they reach out to adults and to have their needs met.

So basically the infant survival

is based upon securing attention

and transmitting or signaling its internal states to a caregiver so it will survive.

And over the course of these tens upon tenants of thousands of interactions

where we reach out for safety, nourishment,

soothing, appreciation,

just have our nervous systems regulated kind of responses we get from the people, the adults around us,

whether their facial expressions are positive or not,

whether we can maintain eye contact or not,

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