Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse.

For those of you who follow or subscribe to this podcast, thank you so much.

Your support means so much to me.

I have Dr. Nicole Baderer on today's episode.

She's a sociologist and author of the book On the Wrong Side, How Universities Protect

Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence. Her research broadly focuses on how our

social structures contribute to survivors' trauma and make sexual violence more likely to occur in

the future. Nicole puts her work into practice as an affiliated educator at the Center for Institutional

Courage. Welcome, Nicole. Thank you. I'm so excited to be here. I am so grateful to have you on.

I'm fascinated with your work, especially because you really focus on what happens after. And that is something that listeners to this podcast

are all dealing with. They've found out that they have been a victim of sexual coercion.

In the case of my listeners, most of the time, it's in the form of they were not given all the information that they needed.

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