102: Navigating The Highs And Lows Of Dating And Relationships With Dr. Scott Lyons

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 15 October 2024

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Scott Lyons joins Sabrina to discuss the high highs and low lows of dating, focusing on the addiction to drama in relationships. He and Sabrina explore how unresolved trauma can lead to seeking emotionally unavailable partners or chaotic relationships, mirroring past experiences. They highlight how many people are drawn to emotional intensity, mistaking it for love, and how this creates a cycle of self-abandonment, as individuals chase someone else’s emotional rollercoaster instead of staying grounded in themselves. Trauma often causes people to confuse present and past experiences, making it difficult to separate healthy dynamics from old emotional patterns. Scott emphasizes that healing begins when the red flags of chaotic relationships no longer feel attractive. He also introduces the concept of "memory spread," where past emotional triggers amplify reactions in the present, causing unnecessary tension. Sabrina and Scott discuss the importance of co-regulating with a partner, articulating needs before stress builds, and learning to enjoy the calm and stability that healthy love brings. Scott notes that for some, calmness may feel unsafe, as they are habituated to chaos and seek it out to fill their anxiety. Ultimately, Sabrina and Scott both agree that true connection is built on curiosity and communication, and that chasing emotional intensity—like butterflies or drama—keeps individuals from experiencing the deeper, more stable intimacy of a healthy relationship.

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar show.
0:06.0	My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host.
0:09.0	Welcome, babes, we are and Bonus Tuesday.
0:12.0	Pugh, pew pewh, it's my favorite. I love a bonus Tuesday.
0:13.0	It's my favorite.
0:14.0	I love a bonus episode.
0:15.0	And this week we have Dr. Scott Lyons.
0:17.0	He is probably one of my favorite humans.
0:19.0	I just, I love him so fucking much.
0:21.0	And we're talking about something really really important and that is
0:24.5	the high highs and low lows in dating when we have that push-pull dynamic that dare I say it
0:30.9	the drama, right?
0:32.5	We've all been there and it's okay,
0:33.8	but today, Scott and I are going to dissect everything
0:36.4	and really, really give you guys the tools that you need.
0:38.6	And guys, we hear you.
0:39.5	I've listened to the feedback, you want shorter intro,
0:41.5	so we're gonna get to the fucking point here and get to it so before we do that don't forget rate and
0:45.6	review the show I'll say this every fucking time because it's really
0:47.9	really important for me it helps us grow please share it with a friend and
0:51.4	don't forget to leave a rating.
0:52.7	Please be kind in the verbiage that you use,
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