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AT HOME with Byron Katie • The Work of Byron Katie® Podcast

#200: My Mom Wants Me to Validate her Mental Torment (Part One) • The Work of Byron Katie®

AT HOME with Byron Katie • The Work of Byron Katie® Podcast

Byron Katie International, Inc.

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.9870 Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

My guest in this episode is Jude, whose 95-year-old mother keeps wanting to include her in her mental torment scripts. As Jude and I delve into the depths of her mother’s torment, listen in to what she discovers and to what has really been causing her own torment with her mother. Together let’s witness and experience what freedom from suffering actually looks like. Relax, get still, settle in, and let’s do some self-inquiry. (Part 1 of 2)

 
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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hello everyone and welcome to the work. My guest today is Jude and do you find yourself

0:12.5

seeking love approval and appreciation and being disappointed? Well in this case Jude has done the

0:18.9

work on her 90 plusplus year old mother.

0:23.6

And oh my goodness, her mother seems very, very upset.

0:28.6

And Jude is trying to fix her and soothe her.

0:31.6

And Jude sees her mother in that situation where her mother seems so hurt and confused. She sees her mother suffering

0:40.3

and bringing herself down and stuck in a loop and needy and demanding and losing it.

0:46.3

And you know, this is fascinating work. Have you ever tried to change someone's mind, sick or well, old or young? I love that you're here.

0:56.6

Together, let's do the work with Jude.

1:03.3

Oh, what is the grace of God? For me, it's the absence of suffering. It's also clear in the

1:10.7

absence of suffering. It's also clear in the absence of suffering. It's also crystal

1:13.6

clear in the absence of suffering. And where does suffering exist? Suffering is as I understand

1:23.6

it to be, what I experienced it to be, what I believe it to be. Those of you

1:30.7

knew to the work today, sitting together what we do is we identify those thoughts that are

1:38.7

the cause of all suffering, discontent, everything from just mild irritation to huge, no way out, no way out kind of suffering.

1:51.0

But we can identify the thoughts we're thinking and believing in those states of fear,

2:00.0

or just recall a state of fear when you were fearful,

2:05.9

anchor in that place and get in touch with what were you thinking and believing and move it respectfully from your head to paper.

2:22.7

Move those thoughts from your head to paper.

2:26.5

And I have just this simple, simple worksheet.

2:33.6

Always free on the work.com.

2:36.2

You don't have to sign up for it or pay for it.

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