291: How to Flirt When You’re Not Confident

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 9 April 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of the Love Life Podcast, Matthew, Audrey, Stephen, and producer David dive deep into one of the most common struggles in dating: flirting.

So many people feel stuck when it comes to creating chemistry, worrying they'll come off as desperate, awkward, or get rejected. This episode breaks down how to define “flirting” rather than just talking, and gives some simple-but-powerful ways to do it in early attraction.

🎯 Topics include:

Why people often lose their flirtatious spark when they like someone too much
The 4 most common flirting fears (based on poll results)
The difference between platonic, desire, and love language
How to flirt without being overly sexual or awkward
What “people-pleasing” energy looks like and how it kills seduction
Practical examples of flirtatious compliments that actually work
The secret ingredient: Tension, contrast, and slowing down

Plus, we have our regular segment “Steve’s Sleeves” with a fun game of Love Life Crew vs Matthew AI!

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome back, Stephen. Welcome back, Audrey.
0:06.8	Hello, friends.
0:08.0	Hi, everyone.
0:09.1	We are talking today about flirting.
0:12.6	It is something that a lot of people struggle with.
0:15.5	We know that because we have polled our audience and the results are in.
0:19.5	We know that so many people feel like there is
0:22.5	either someone they like in particular that they would like to flirt with, but there's something
0:27.7	getting in the way of them flirting with that person. We're going to talk about the results of that
0:32.2	poll. And sometimes it's not even just about one person. Sometimes it's just this feeling that I don't create enough opportunity in my love life
0:42.3	because I'm not flirting with people.
0:45.3	I am not putting myself out there.
0:47.3	I am not creating the opportunities.
0:50.3	So that is what we are going to talk about today.
0:53.3	What's going on?
0:55.0	Why aren't we creating these opportunities?
0:58.0	How can we create more opportunities with people?
1:01.0	And for anyone out there who feels like their dating life just never gets going,
1:06.0	I think this is really going to help.
1:08.0	Well, that sounds lovely.
1:09.0	And if you haven't already,
1:18.2	subscribe to the new YouTube channel for the podcast, you can do so at Love Life Podcast channel where you can watch the entire video episode as they come out, which I know a lot of
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