It is really hard to acknowledge that people you love very much and that people you trust very much might be here for the wrong reasons.

But it is way more painful to go through an experience where you think you have a community and you think you have support and all of a sudden,

no one's around. Better to build your house, your foundations, solidly. Better to have one or two

fantastic friends. Better to have no friends at all and trust and love and focus on yourself than to build a community of people who are going to drag you down energetically.

Hi, I'm Rachel.

And in this show, we talk about everything.

Life and work, health and healing, relationships with others and with ourselves. These are stories for the seekers. These are conversations

for the curious. This is the Rachel Hollis podcast. Hi guys, it's Rachael, welcome to another episode of the podcast and another creation on the part of me and Jack and everyone

who works here to try and bring you some information that is going to help you today.

And I'm starting off with that little caveat because I don't know exactly what we're going

to title this episode.

I tend to come up with the topic and then come up with the title later. And I have some ideas around the title, which all feel

really harsh. I think that I want to go with my instinct, which is something along the lines

of five harsh truths you need to know so that you can stop being a dormant.

But that sounds so mean and so rude. And I never want to say something that's triggering

or that makes you feel bad. But I don't know another way to say this. And it's something I wish

someone would have told me a very long time ago. I like to imagine that as you're sitting

there listening to this, if you've hung out with me for a long time, when I just said that you

were like, Rachel, what are you

talking about? How could you be a doormat? I like to think that somewhere someone thought that

you were like, man, you're confident and like you've got your stuff together. I can't imagine

you ever being a doormat. Maybe I'm projecting the vision I hope you have on me. And as I sit here today, 42 years old,

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