It is really important if you want to have a healthy marriage to be your own person.

It is so easy to accidentally grow into each other.

But the whole idea is that you as a partnership support each other

so that you can be the best whole version of yourself so that you as two

whole people can come together to make a couple that is greater than the sum of your parts.

Hey guys, it's Rach. Welcome to the show. I'm so glad that you're here with us today. And I have a favor,

which sounds kind of harsh if we just met, but I'm assuming that most of you have been a part of this

community for a hot minute. And so I got to ask, are you subscribed to the podcast?

Subscribing to the podcast you listen to regularly is one of the best things that you can do for hosts like me.

It helps to support the show and the staff that works on it.

It ensures that you never miss an episode when we drop a new one.

And here's a cool thing about subscribing.

If you do it, and then you hate this show,

just unsubscribe. It's one click away. In the meantime, if you're listening, we would so appreciate it

if you would just tap that button and make it official. Hi, guys, it's Rach.

Welcome to another episode of the show and a new edition in our AskRach series.

This is where people call in and leave me a voicemail. Like old school answering machine,

they leave a voicemail, they ask a question, and then I answer it. Producer Jack takes all of

your questions, puts them into a spreadsheet for me, and then I click on a random voicemail.

You and I listen to it in real time, meaning when you hear it is when I hear it.

I do not prepare my answers.

So you're just getting my real thoughts as if we were sitting together having coffee.

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