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🗓️ 13 January 2025
⏱️ 89 minutes
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0:00.0 | It feels a little bit like a curse, I think, of driven people to have high expectations. |
0:06.3 | How can people who are always very hard on themselves learn to build up their self-esteem a little |
0:10.8 | bit more? |
0:12.9 | I don't know self-esteem is the answer. |
0:15.5 | I don't think it's bad to be hard on yourself, as long as you also celebrate when the |
0:19.6 | victories happen. |
0:20.7 | But, you know, so many people will tell you, I have poor self-esteem because when I was a kid, |
0:24.5 | people said this to me and that to me. It's convenient that we remember those things and not the |
0:28.9 | positive things that also occur, obviously. But I think it's more important is to realize that |
0:33.0 | self-esteem is earned. It's only earned by you with yourself. You're not going to get self-esteem because |
0:38.0 | everybody praises you. Someone can tell your whole life that you're brilliant, you're a genius, |
0:41.7 | you're beautiful, you're handsome, and you know, I believe it. Someone can tell you're a piece of |
0:45.8 | crap and you're never going to become anything. And there's a party you can say, I'll show you |
0:48.8 | as many people have and then they develop drive out of it, right? So it's really self-esteem comes from doing incredibly difficult things where you know you pushed yourself. |
0:57.4 | It's not virtue signaling. |
0:58.8 | It's not telling people about it. |
1:00.6 | It's what you know inside your soul is true. |
1:03.2 | And the more you do things that are incredibly difficult, and especially things that are meaningful, |
1:07.1 | meaning they're not just about yourself, the higher that esteem would be. I think the most |
1:11.7 | important thing for self-esteem is to find something you care about more than yourself. As long as you're in |
1:16.0 | your own head, the nature of the mind is reductionism, right? Good, bad, right, wrong, all those types of things. |
1:23.2 | Of course, life is much more many different hues than that. And so when you find something you care about, whether it's your kids or whether it's |
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