Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you

awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.

I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.

And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.

Hey there.

So in this episode, I want to talk about, again, something that I get lots of questions asked about, and that is,

our narcissist is actually born that way. When they come into this world, are they born?

And I suppose I'm going to talk about it from the research that I have seen and found from

my own experiences. And this is really about my opinion. But again, I'm always open to different opinions and different

points of view with all of this. But this is kind of the sort of stance that I am coming from with

the research that I have had. So in my opinion, no, narcissists are not born. There isn't a

gene that we have found that specifies, hey, this is the gene, you are going to be a narcissist.

You know, narcissists are formed and they are formed in childhood because of certain family dynamics,

because of their perception and interpretation of certain behaviour from those around them,

their mother, their father, extended family,

teacher, grandparents, whoever that is. Now, when we talk about intergenerational trauma,

because we know that for up to seven generations deep, we can actually pass down that level

of trauma. So although we know there isn't a narcissist gene, if you think about,

and again, I'll use an example of, let's say you look at the narcissist in your life and they have a

narcissistic parent, for instance, it can almost look like there's a gene that is being

passed down then from generation to generation. But actually

what is being passed down is maladaptive behaviour, an abusive behaviour, because of protection.

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