The Narcissist/Codependent Magnet
Trauma & Narcissism Redefined
Caroline Strawson
4.8 • 701 Ratings
🗓️ 6 July 2021
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
Today, we will talk about the magnetic relationship between narcissists and codependents. We will dive deep into their origins, why they attract each other, and why they seem like a match made in heaven - or more accurately, made in hell.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- Why certain people only attract narcissists to their love life
- The role of the worthiness wounds in codependents' and in narcissists' behaviours
- How codependents can heal their emotional core wounds, and prevent themselves from attracting narcissists
Once a codependent identifies the core wound that triggers their protector parts to make them constantly give so they feel worthy or lovable, the chances are huge that they prevent those protector parts from acting on their behalf. With narcissists, on the other hand, this is almost impossible, since they'll never look at their worthiness wounds.
Resources:
- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you |
| 0:09.7 | awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive. |
| 0:16.6 | I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you. |
| 0:21.7 | And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation. |
| 0:30.7 | Hey there. |
| 0:31.9 | So today I want to talk to you about the magnetic relationship that is codependent and a narcissist. |
| 0:41.5 | I get asked questions all the time in my community and one of the things that comes up is |
| 0:48.2 | why is it I always seem to be attracting narcissists into my life. Now, that might be, the starting point was |
| 0:55.8 | a narcissistic parent. But when you start to track back through your life, very often you start |
| 1:02.0 | to see that there's been a pattern of narcissistic friends, narcissistic relationships. |
| 1:07.7 | And there's many people in my community that I've had a catalogue one after the other |
| 1:13.0 | of attracting narcissists into their loving relationships. So why does that happen? Why is it when you |
| 1:21.0 | find yourself with one narcissist, very often you end up being with another one and then another one and then another one. |
| 1:29.5 | What is it about that magnetic relationship that attracts each other, the codependent and the |
| 1:35.3 | narcissist, that almost makes it a match made in heaven. |
| 1:38.8 | Or maybe I should say a match made in hell, right? |
| 1:41.6 | So what is it about a codependent and a narcissist that means they are so |
| 1:46.6 | attractive to each other? And for this, I'm going to talk to you about childhood wounds and what then |
| 1:54.2 | comes up. So many of you know that in the work that I do and the coaching and the therapy, |
| 1:59.7 | I use something called internal family |
| 2:02.1 | systems as a real foundational starting point. Now, internal family systems is an evidence-based |
| 2:07.3 | parts therapy. So how I see people and how I work within my narcissistic trauma recovery |
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