Best Dating Advice For People In Their 30s (You're Not Behind)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
iHeartPodcasts
4.8 • 28.5K Ratings
🗓️ 21 March 2025
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever feel "behind" in dating?
Do you value compatibility over chemistry?
Dating in your 30s is a completely new experience—one that comes with unique challenges, fresh perspectives, and a deeper sense of self-awareness. Today, Jay unpacks the most common misconceptions about dating at this stage in life and shares empowering insights on how to navigate relationships with confidence and clarity. He begins by tackling the biggest myth that holds so many people back—the belief that they’re “too late” or “falling behind” in their search for love.
Jay also explores the key differences between dating in your 20s versus your 30s. While your 20s are a period of self-discovery—figuring out deal-breakers, learning from mistakes, and often getting caught up in dating games—your 30s bring a new level of clarity and intention. No more ignoring red flags, no more prioritizing chemistry over compatibility, and no more settling for less than you deserve. Emotional maturity becomes the foundation of lasting relationships, and by your 30s, you’ve developed the wisdom and confidence to approach love in a way that truly aligns with your values.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Overcome the Fear of Being "Too Late" in Dating
How to Stop Settling and Start Prioritizing What You Deserve
How to Stop Playing Dating Games and Be Direct About What You Want
How to Choose Peace Over Drama in Relationships
How to Approach Dating in Your 30s with Confidence and Clarity
No matter where you are on your dating journey, remember that you are not behind—you are exactly where you need to be. Your 30s are not a deadline; they are an opportunity to date with clarity, confidence, and purpose.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:00 The Biggest Dating Myth
02:55 Why Your 30s Are Powerful
03:27 Society’s False Timelines
05:00 Emotional Maturity in Relationships
06:11 Lessons from Dating in Your 20s
08:41 No More Dating Games
10:27 Trusting Your Gut & Red Flags
14:47 Compatibility vs. Chemistry
15:20 Choosing Peace Over Drama
16:58 The Pain of Settling vs. Being Single
19:38 Healing After Breakups
22:22 Dating with Confidence in Your 30s
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