So thanks so much for joining. Welcome and this is Donald Ponce in New York and I'm Josh. I've been

I'm a Buddhist pastor and we have this the first Tuesday of every month and to do that

one of my requirements with finding a space is that the space not demand any specific amount of money so that everybody can attend no matter what your financial status is.

That said, if we could ask for $10 per person, but again, if you cannot afford that,

don't worry about it. Give what you can. If you can't give anything, don't worry. We want you more than your money. But if you can give $10 or more that pays for the space and anymore also is goes in my pocket frankly.

I do everything by donation teach and counseling. So the Venmo is DarmaPunks with an ex-NYC.

Generally we have a one of those bar codes or QR codes, I should say that you can scan but didn't have it tonight, but it's just the name of the place you went to Darma Pums for the next NYC. So if you want to give by Venmo and there's more information on the website

darmapumps NYC.com. So on every morning, Monday through Fridays at 8 a.m.

if you'd like to join our morning meditations with Kathy.

Kathy teaches daily pause, and it's just a great way

to start your practice.

And also Kathy, like me, we both work as counselors, Kathy Somatic.

Thank you for being here. And so the schedule is I'm going to give a talk and we're going to do a meditation which is going to employ

Some of the tools and themes in the talk and then there'll be time for any questions and it doesn't have to be questions on the talk you could ask anything you want.

There are times in all childhoods to varying degrees where stress occurs in family systems and our families.

Often it might be stress between parents, stress that's due to financial downturns, loss of work, a parent that is going through an emotionally challenging time, there can be stresses due to world events. We just went through a pandemic and now there's a war in the Middle East. So there's periods where world events

can have enormous impact on families as well.

And during these times, caregivers

no matter how well-intentioned and the family environment might fail to provide what I will call the foundations of secure attachment.

Well, what the hell does that mean? Secure attachment is a need we all have from cradle to birth. We need as human beings we are a social species that needs to have other individuals available to regulate our nervous systems.

Human beings do not regulate their nervous systems alone.

In fact, in solitary confinement, we very quickly, the technical term is lose our ship very quickly.

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