Everything I've Learned (so far): A Guide to Personal Growth

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.4K Ratings

🗓️ 3 February 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

In this special episode, Forrest focuses on the key lessons from 400 episodes of Being Well, giving you a crash course in personal growth and development. If you’re just getting into the show, or are looking for a good episode to share with people who are new to this kind of content, this is a great place to start. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:10: Change is possible, but change is hard 3:00: Focus on what you can control 4:30: The consistency principle 6:05: Punishing ourselves is a losing strategy 7:45: What are you pursuing? 9:30: The negativity bias 11:40: Why you don't have self-worth 13:40: Change the beliefs you have about yourself 17:05: Forming a coherent narrative 19:50: Set reasonable expectations 22:45: The middle path 24:30: Homeostasis and social pressure 26:30: How to get good at anything 27:45: Willpower, and avoiding willpower 28:25: Don’t know mind 31:25: The trap of self-awareness 32:35: Risking disappointment 34:10: The function of our bad habits 36:00: Look for those who support you 37:15: Changing our models of relationship 40:00: Authenticity 41:50: Embrace good conflict 44:40: Contempt 46:20: Start by joining 48:40: Experiencing out 49:55: Joining with the defense 51:15: Moving toward to move away 52:40: Learning to trust yourself I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Head to acorns.com/beingwell or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Use promo code hanson at the link below to get an exclusive 60% off an annual plan at incogni.com/hanson. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code BEINGWELL at https://www.oneskin.co/ Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hanson.
0:10.0	If you're new to the podcast, wow, you picked a great episode to listen to. And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:16.0	Today I'm going to be doing something very different, something that I've never done before on the podcast. Over the last six years, since the podcast started, I've had hundreds of
0:26.1	conversations with incredible guest experts. To prep for those conversations, I've read so many
0:31.9	books and so many studies. I have consumed way too much mental healthy material.
0:41.9	And in the process of doing all of that, I've bumped into some ideas over and over again.
0:47.0	And I wanted to take a moment, to take an episode here to really reflect on all of that.
0:57.9	And to do what I could, to put all of it together and boil it down for you into a kind of start here to all of this that is really a crash course in everything that I've learned so far, everything that I wish I knew when I started
1:03.3	recording the podcast for the first time six years ago. This is what I wish I knew when I started.
1:09.7	If your goal is to change something about yourself or your life,
1:12.6	the place to begin is figuring out what you really want.
1:15.6	We start there because change is possible, but man, change is really hard.
1:19.6	We're in this little rowboat on rough water,
1:22.6	and we're trying to wrestle our bodies and our minds in a direction that they usually do not want to go.
1:28.1	And we're often doing this while dragging other people along behind us.
1:31.8	If you're going to expand the effort necessary to make a meaningful change,
1:35.6	travel somewhere you want to go,
1:37.5	focus on identifying your authentic needs,
1:40.0	and then finding the goals out in the world that will help you really meet them.
1:45.1	It is actually remarkable how rarely people do this. A great example of this is New Year's resolutions. Have you ever
1:50.3	wondered why most of them are the same? We're all individual people and yet there's so much overlap.
1:55.7	I want to lose 10 pounds. I want to wake up earlier, start that new hobby, maybe be a bit more
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