Hello and welcome back to advice session. A series here on Anything Goes where you send

in your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on and I give you my unprofessional

advice. And today's topic is dating complications. Dating and romance and love can be absolutely

incredible. But as with all things that can be absolutely incredible,

it can also be miserable and challenging and complicated and confusing. And that's what we're

going to be discussing today. The complicated side of dating and romance and love. Without further ado, let's begin.

Somebody said, I can't develop any feelings for any dates or any guys that I've met

recently. Is it me?

This is such a frustrating feeling, and I deeply relate to it because I've been there many times. I feel like there's this

pressure to go on dates and feel things relatively quickly. Like, okay, if you go on five dates,

there's this expectation, like, at least one of those should work but it's not that simple there's no

predictable outcome right you might go on a hundred dates and not click with any of those people

and that is neither your fault or theirs whether you click with someone or not is arguably up to the cosmos. You know what I mean? It's written in

the stars. It couldn't be less of your fault or their fault. It's no one's fault. It's just how it is.

You can't control if you click with someone. And to blame it on yourself is to cause yourself

unnecessary grief because it is so normal to go on a bunch of dates and click with absolutely no one.

And the best thing that you can do is honor your instinct that it's not working and not bark

up the wrong tree and try to force something to work that

isn't working. I will say, though, it is a bit complicated because there are times when you might

be in a certain state of mind, you might be in a certain phase of your life that is preventing you from connecting with people that

you're on a date with. And that's something to consider. Now, I would argue that that's almost

your subconscious and the universe protecting you from getting into a relationship at the wrong time.

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