How to co parent as allies, not adversaries | Shaka Senghor and Ebony Roberts

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🗓️ 17 April 2020

⏱️ 14 minutes

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When Shaka Senghor and Ebony Roberts ended their relationship, they made a pact to protect their son from its fallout. What resulted was a poetic meditation on what it means to raise a child together, yet apart. In this moving and deeply personal talk, Senghor and Roberts share their approach to co-parenting -- an equal, active partnership that rolls with the punches and revels in the delights of guiding their child through the world with thought and intention.

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0:00.0	I'm Elise Hugh and you're listening to TED Talks Daily.
0:07.1	Splitting up from your romantic partner.
0:09.5	It's already an emotional roller coaster.
0:11.8	But then navigating a breakup when you share children, that's one of the most heart-wrenching experiences we have to go through in modern life.
0:20.1	How can you raise children who are still full of wonder and promise when the parental
0:24.0	couple is finished?
0:26.1	Authors Ebony Roberts and Shaka Singar gave this talk together at TEDx Detroit in 2019.
0:31.9	I won't give it away, but this talk will grab you from the moment it starts and keep you
0:36.7	all the way through.
0:40.1	I remember watching my father raise the pistol to my mother's head.
0:46.9	She pleaded with him to put the gun down, but he ignored her.
0:53.0	When she bolted toward the door, he followed close behind, and once outside, he fired one single shot.
1:01.5	I was 12.
1:03.6	I remember this moment frame by frame.
1:07.2	I remember feeling numb.
1:10.0	I remember feeling alone. I remember feeling alone.
1:13.5	Thank God the bullet missed her, but my family would never be the same.
1:19.3	I would never be the same.
1:22.6	I didn't know then all the ways that my parents on again, off again relationship would impact me, but I knew I didn't want to love like theirs.
1:33.3	My story would be different.
1:36.3	Years later, when I met you, I felt madly in love.
1:41.3	Our connection was undeniable.
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