You're not listening to me, Matthew Hussey.

This isn't my problem right now.

My problem is that I found someone I like already,

and yet maybe they're my type, or maybe they're not.

Just besides the point!

The problem is they don't want to commit, you idiot. There are five words I have heard so many times over 18 years of coaching people in their love lives.

Maybe you've even said them to yourself.

What's more surprising is that these words often come from people who are genuinely looking to find the love of their life.

What are they?

I'm so done with dating.

Maybe you've said it yourself. Maybe you've heard it from a friend.

Either way, I get it. Dating can be exhausting, awkward, and just end up feeling like a

chore that takes us away from other things and people in our lives that we actually care about.

If you're having these feelings, I want you to know that they're both

normal and extremely common. We all have that stage when we're in the middle of something

and we hit what's known as the dip. I felt like this when I was writing my book, Love Life.

We get stuck, feel like we're bashing our head against the wall, and we can't look at it anymore.

We end up resenting the entire process.

There's a question that Tim Ferriss poses in situations like this.

What would this look like if it were easy?

It's a simple question, but it asks us to step back and see if there's a different way to approach the thing altogether.

I believe that there is a useful variation that we can ask ourselves if we feel burned out in our dating lives.

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