When we go through a heartbreak, there is this tremendous sense of fear and overwhelm and desperation

at not only being in the worst pain of our lives, but the idea that this pain is never going to end.

In today's video, I want to talk about the four things that we do, that prolong our heartbreak,

that can make it never-ending, and how we can avoid doing these four things so that

this, the worst time of your life, if you're going through it right now, is something that can

run its course in a healthy amount of time. Over the last 48 hours, my team and I were talking

about this video and the subject

of heartbreak and after many hours of speaking about it, all of us came to the exact same

conclusion. That heartbreak just sucks. It is the worst and that when you're going through it, in many ways, though you need to hear

the perfect combination of words that could help you feel better in real time, and that's

what you're always praying for and talking with someone, it's also true that the last thing you really want when you're feeling that

is advice. So I'm conscious in this video of the fact that if you are in the most acute stage

of heartbreak, what you need probably more than advice is a reminder that heartbreak is universal.

It is something that all of us go through at some point in our lives.

And while the experience of heartbreak can be immensely isolating because we can feel like for that time we don't exist in the same world as

everybody else. The reality is heartbreak is what connects us. So if you are heartbroken right

now, I want you to know not only are you in good company, but also that there are four things

that you can avoid doing that will mean

you're going to feel better faster. The first thing we do that prolongs our heartbreak is we avoid feeling the pain of the heartbreak.

Think about it this way. Someone breaks up with us, let's say.

The reality of that pain, if we really wanted to be with that person, if we love that person,

if we saw a future with that person, is so big that many of us will do anything to avoid truly feeling that pain.

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