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Our conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlaysen-Fife this week was just too good to keep to ourselves. She explains what red flags you should watch out for in a partner.

We talk about why a marriage that seems unequal can actually be at its healthiest, and later

on she dives into why feeling discomfort in your relationship can actually be the key to having the love

that you really want.

I hope you'll stick around.

We sort of cringe at a boundary and we think, well no no no I mean I'm going to love everyone as much as I can

You know as if that's the goal except it comes at the expensive of your own self-care and self-love.

That's right.

You know, for those who are maybe contemplating this idea,

whether they're single and they're looking for a partner

or whether they are married and they're thinking, well this doesn't apply

to me but maybe does it?

What are some of the red flags that you see in relationships that really merit a slowing down in a consideration of this whole process.

Yeah.

Well, I think anybody that is a good idea to really partner with.

They're not going to make you struggle to hold your dignity

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