We should be more afraid of getting someone who isn't a match for us

than in scaring away someone with our interest. Hey everyone. This episode is a rewind episode, one from the archives. I think you're going to enjoy it.

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How cool should you play it in early dating?

There is a period of the dating process isn't there where we're so worried that we're

going to come on too strong and scare someone away that we reserve the parts of ourselves

that really want to come out, parts of ourselves that feel like they're authentically us.

Maybe we're someone who loves affection, but we're afraid to show too much affection because we don't want

that person to think it's too much, or we're worried if we get seen to be liking them too much,

that we're going to lose all of our power. We may love being the kind of person who's expressive

with our words, but we hold

back our words and censor ourselves for fear that we're going to say too much. We may love

quality time, but we act like someone who doesn't really care that much about seeing someone else

because we don't know whether they like us as much as we like them. And we're worried

they'll like us less if they think

we're too available. I had a question in recently from someone who said, I am affectionate. I love

quality time. I have so much I want to give, but I find myself holding back for fear that it's

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