S2, Ep 4 Dial Emma: Friendship Groups - how do I navigate rupture within a group dynamic?
Friendship Therapy
Emma Reed Turrell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 6 September 2024
⏱️ 13 minutes
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Summary
This week, we hear from a listener who has experienced a rupture in a friendship and is struggling to set boundaries with the friend who has hurt them, within the larger friendship group that they are both an active part of.
How do we remove ourselves from relationships that are no longer serving us, without becoming estranged from the entire group? When there isn’t an emergency exit, how can we navigate situations of conflict or rupture?
In this episode, Emma talks about family systems, the responsibilities we take on for others in group dynamics vs what is actually appropriate and reasonable, and learning to radically accept other people’s choices as theirs, and not our own, in order to co-exist more peacefully.
What advice would you give this listener?
If you’ve got a friendship dilemma and you'd like Emma's help, drop us a voicenote on Instagram @friendshiptherapypod!
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| 0:00.0 | heading off in the car this summer, think trip. |
| 0:03.2 | TRIP, that's top-up, rest, inspect, prepare. |
| 0:09.1 | I am a big fan of the great British seaside, but it can be a long old slog in the car so it's important to rest every two hours |
| 0:16.7 | pull over get out your car stretch your legs and maybe grab a coffee at the service station too |
| 0:21.2 | hey you'll thank me if you get stuck in unexpected traffic. |
| 0:24.6 | Have a safe trip. |
| 0:26.6 | Search National Highways Trip. |
| 0:29.1 | Welcome to this episode of Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy, the part of the show where you get to |
| 0:36.8 | well Dial Emma with your Dile Emma. Yeah, you see what I did though. You share your friendship |
| 0:42.0 | concerns and I share my reflections as a therapist to give |
| 0:45.2 | you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. Okay, enough from me. Over to you. |
| 1:11.0 | I would just want to get your perspective on how you might go about keeping boundaries with someone that you've maybe had a conflict with but they are part of a larger friendship group. I've had a sort of rapture with a friend and they are in the same |
| 1:17.0 | friendship group as me so whenever we're at group settings we have to see each |
| 1:21.2 | other and I'm finding it increasingly difficult. |
| 1:24.0 | I'm very anxious when we go to these things, even though we ignore each other. |
| 1:28.0 | It doesn't feel natural to do that, but this person has really hurt me, so I just don't know how to keep that boundary and respect myself. |
| 1:36.0 | I not just want to placate and keep everything nice. |
| 1:40.0 | I don't want to feel anxious when I'm going to group things. |
| 1:43.7 | For context we are a big group, so we're one of 13. |
| 1:47.7 | It's quite difficult for me to navigate, |
| 1:51.1 | respect to myself and having this boundary with this friend who has really hurt me |
| 1:56.7 | but then also find it difficult to go to group things and not just want to make nice. |
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