Why hello friends.

Thank you for stopping by.

And welcome to Garma Punks, NYC.

I am Josh, a guiding teacher, Buddhist pastor, and a couple of announcements.

If you'd like to attend a retreat from August 31st to September 4th on ego transcendence, the information is also on the website and in the chat. So I hope you'll

consider one of those times to connect with us and if you'd like to support my work, Venmo is

Darmapunks with an Xnyc like the website. The PayPal button is on the

website and on the podcast page and if you're so inclined there's a Patreon which is a small donation you can make if you'd like to support my work every month entirely what feels right for you and never give more than what is sustainable and doesn't cause stress.

So tonight's going to be a kind of overview of boundaries, why they're both difficult

for us to set and also why they're essential for healthy relationships,

how to know when we need to set boundaries and some tools and insights for setting them.

And of course, much of this work is not just due to my practice as a Buddhist pastor,

but also as working and counseling for so many years,

so many of the issues that we address when we connect is often boils down to a lack of clear boundaries and relationships.

We are a social species for whom attachment is everything.

We're born prematurely.

That's so if we, if we waited any longer to be born

after nine months.

Our heads would come too large to pass through the birth canal.

So we're born as a species wildly, as babies we require ongoing protection nurturing guidance support and

these needs go on for many many years without which we don't survive.

And so nature rewards bonding, obviously, with oxytocin and many other hormones and there are key regions of both

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