Welcome to Sunday Stillness, a few minutes each week to meditate on one idea that will bring us closer to who we want to become.

After my book, The Life Council released last year, I kind of took a break from the topic of friendship.

I mean not entirely obviously there have been episodes about friendship in the last year and there have been, you know, conversations around that topic, but I had spent so much time not just writing about friendship, but thinking about it, you know, researching, having conversations, promoting that book.

So I sort of put down the mantle of friendship as a topic for a little bit.

And just recently I have started revisiting some of my own personal friendship rules.

So rules are a little bit different than philosophies. In the Life Council I share my five

deepest or most important friendship philosophies and they are friendship is it to do, believe the best, just go, like every selfie, and your

spouse is not your best friend. I still believe in all five of those friendship philosophies and those are sort of

broad ideas.

Even number four, like every selfie, which is a directive.

It's a very clear sort of instruction.

If you read the book, you can see that it's more than just about actually

liking your friend's selfies, but it is kind of a bigger picture way to think about cheering them

on. The Just Go Friendship Philosophy, again, that is sort of a rule or maybe a default that I want to say yes to

invitations and opportunities and moments with my friends more than I say no and that I don't want my self-care, which I do

practice and is a priority for me, but I don't want my self-care to always be an absolute

when it comes to relationship. Sometimes you have to put aside some of your staunch self-care in order to care for others

and that's you know sort of a controversial opinion these days. Anyway, those five philosophies I still

stand by. I still really think that they're crucial in my friendships and I encourage readers to come up with their own friendship

philosophies because you know mine may not exactly align with how you are in your friendships or how you think about your

friendships and so I really wanted readers of the book to read my five friendship

philosophies but then come up with their own. And what I am asking in today's

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