The Dark Triad: Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.4K Ratings

🗓️ 30 September 2024

⏱️ 75 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Rick and Forrest unpack the "Dark Triad" of personality traits - narcissism, Machiavellianism, and sociopathy - and explore how these traits can manifest in everyday relationships. They talk about how individuals with these tendencies use charm and manipulation to control situations and people, and offer practical strategies for identifying these traits in others. You’ll learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself from manipulation, and develop a thoughtful, empathetic approach when navigating relationships with those who exhibit these challenging behaviors. The episode also explores self-care in difficult dynamics, the ethical considerations in labeling others, and how to manage unavoidable interactions with people who display these traits. It’s essential listening for anyone who has encountered toxic behavior, and wants to learn how to deal with it more effectively. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction and disclaimers 3:50: The Dark Triad: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Sociopathy 7:40: Charisma, privilege, and why some people get away with antisocial behavior 16:10: Sensitivity to criticism, viewing people as means to ends, and other evidence 22:35: Being careful about labeling people 28:50: Developing awareness, and grieving reality 33:10: Boundaries and safety 38:00: Limiting the scope of the relationship 42:20: How to break through the “fuzz” in communication 49:25: Transference, and when it’s safe to confront people 55:15: Self-care in unavoidable situations 59:15: When you notice these tendencies in yourself 1:02:10: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Trust your gut with Seed’s DS-01 Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/BEINGWELL and use code 25BEINGWELL to get 25% off your first month. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and
0:05.0	welcome to being well, I'm Forrest Tanssen.
0:10.0	If you're new to the show, thanks for listening today
0:12.0	and if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:14.8	Sometimes we know from the very beginning that a person just isn't for us.
0:19.7	While those relationships can certainly be pretty difficult. There's a clarity to them that
0:24.8	tends to simplify things. Then there are those people who seem at least at first glance like
0:30.7	a great match, a charming colleague, a gregarious and interesting friend, or a potential romantic
0:36.6	partner who seems head over heels for you. But over time, things get more complicated. The charm begins to feel manipulative, the friendliness turns
0:45.4	into self-centeredness, and the care and intention start to seem a bit more controlling.
0:51.2	Today we're focusing on these types of relationships,
0:53.5	particularly those involving what are known as the dark triad of personality traits,
0:57.8	narcissism, Machiavellianism, and sociopathy. These traits can lurk beneath the surface, hidden beneath a facade of
1:05.8	charisma and likeability. But as time goes on, a person's true nature inevitably emerges,
1:11.5	revealing patterns of manipulation, a lack of empathy, and a relentless focus on their
1:16.4	own needs.
1:17.4	We'll be exploring some of the key features of these personality traits, the signs to look
1:21.1	out for, and the strategies you can use to protect yourself
1:24.3	and manage these challenging relationships. So to help me do that I'm joined today by
1:28.8	clinical psychologist Dr Rick Hansen. So Dad, how are you doing? I'm good and I'm very interested in this topic.
1:36.0	Yeah, same. I was really looking forward to this one as a quick note before we start.
1:40.5	We're focusing today on what I'll call subclinical presentations of these
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