This week on the Anxiety Slayer Podcast, we're discussing the fear of good things turning bad or not lasting, also known in some circles as waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Welcome back to another episode in Nanga. It's so good to be with you today.

Hey Shen. This feeling anxious when things are going well.

Yeah, I think it's a very relatable experience.

It's very common, so if it's happening for you, please know that you're not alone.

Yeah, it's almost like we have this scanner in our, we're just scanning looking for something that might go sideways,

whether it be mental, physical, something happening in your family or whatever it is,

just looking, looking looking looking looking constantly scanning

that hyper vigilance causes so much dread and anxiety and I'm glad that we're going to be rolling through some of the suggestions and ideas

that we have to help move past that.

Yeah, it's a very difficult experience and it's something that really can come crashing in on a happy moment, a peaceful day, a significant event where you're coming together with loved ones and everything's fine and it's where you love to be and then this shadow

Anxiety can come in and it's a very difficult experience.

And then we had a group question come in that was the catalyst for our conversation today and that said I struggle with what my

counselor has called anticipatory grief where I almost try to imagine the pain

I'll feel at the loss of a loved one in the hope that it will

prepare me. Needless to say this causes anxiety and when I read that I was like oh my gosh I know I know what that is not necessarily

around the loss of somebody that I love but a number of other areas whether whether it be an illness, whether it be something happening to my son, you know, whatever comes in and that anticipatory grief, like, okay, well if we prepare for this then perhaps we'll be able to get through it with

more ease and grace yeah and I think it's related to this experience of you know when

we say waiting for the other shoe to draw or to this

anticipating something terrible is going to happen in the middle of a perfectly blue sky day

when there's no evidence, hard evidence around to suggest something really heavy is about to happen.

And this is something I experienced a fair bit as a child when I was suffering with very strong anxiety, particularly from about the

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