Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you

awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.

I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.

And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.

Hey there and welcome to this episode on why does the narcissist lie?

I know many of you listening to this right now will be listening

intently because what can be really, really challenging when you're dealing with a narcissist

is you start to see their lies, but nobody else does. And all of their flying monkeys,

which is a term that we use in narcissism of those

that are around narcissists who are almost going into a fawn response with them, believing every

single word that they say, can be really, really triggering them for you, the person who has been

victimized by a narcissist. So I want to kind of break this down really in this episode.

And the first thing is, you know, why do narcissists lie? Why do they continually and almost

habitually and pathologically step into that lie? And really this goes down back to how is a

narcissist formed? Because again, from a research

perspective, there is no narcissist genes, so to speak. We can see those patterns of parental

behaviours that go down from generation to generation that then create a narcissist.

Because remember, how we behave in our childhood is around our perception and

interpretation of our parents' behaviour, siblings, other extended family, peers at school,

teachers. You know, as a kid, we interpret and really personalise the behavior that we see that

they must be behaving like that because of me. And between the ages, particularly between the ages

of two and seven, we are in this theta brainwave state, which is a hypnotic state. We're in a

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