Why Keeping Telling Your Narcissistic Abuse Story Can Keep You Stuck

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 23 November 2021

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

This week, we will talk about the negative effects of keeping repeating your story over and over. Of course, all of us who went through narcissistic abuse want to be heard and validated, and that’s why we need to tell our story. However, from a neuroscience perspective, the more we keep telling our story of abuse, the more we are slowing down our healing process. Today, we will explore how our mind works and understand what happens in our body when we talk about our story of abuse, and what can help us to overcome this trauma.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why repeating our story of abuse over and over makes our healing process slower

- What Trauma Vortex is and how we get there

- What happens in our body every time we relive our relationship with a narcissist

- Why we must pay attention to the content we consume on the internet and on social media about narcissistic abuse

Much of the content about narcissistic abuse we see on social media is about how terrible it is, whether it is made with humour through memes or actual stories. And it is awful indeed, but that kind of content focuses on the narcissist, on the abuse and, therefore, activates the negative feelings we had while enduring that abuse. The way I see it, our focus should be elsewhere - on our recovery, what we can learn about ourselves, and what we can use from it to grow and evolve.

Resources:

- Join my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme™ https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.5	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.4	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.
0:21.3	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:30.6	Hey, everybody.
0:32.4	It's great to have your company on this episode.
0:36.2	And today I want to really talk to you about why keeping telling
0:40.2	your story over and over and over again can really keep you feeling stuck. And I know how important
0:50.9	it is for you to feel seen and heard and validated and believed. And I just really
0:57.9	want to add in that this isn't about that. I want to talk to you a bit about the neuroscience of this.
1:04.4	But equally, I also want to stress that I believe you, I hear you, I see you. And if you aren't part of my community
1:14.0	to really know that, please come and join my community. You know, I have a free support group
1:20.2	on Facebook. I have my Facebook account. I have my Instagram. Come and be part of my world. Okay. I would love to invite you to be part of my world. You know, I have my Instagram. Come and be part of my world. I would love to invite you to be part of my
1:30.2	world. You know, I have my podcast, my YouTube channel. I have all of those elements too. But I want you to
1:36.3	feel part of my family, part of my community, because I know how important that is, because that's
1:43.2	exactly how I felt. I felt alone. I felt
1:45.7	deeply ashamed. I felt guilty. I was criticizing myself. And I just wanted people to listen and hear me.
1:54.2	But what I didn't realize, and this is from that neuroscience perspective, was the more I kept telling
1:59.6	my story and trying to get as many people as
2:03.0	possible to get it and hear me and understand and say what a bad person, the narcissist was,
2:08.6	actually the more I kept doing that, the more it was actually slowing down my healing process.
2:15.0	And you might think, well, hold on, Caroline, how does that happen? Let me explain. Let me explain to you why that that would happen. So when we are feeling in that
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