S3, Ep 10 Dial Emma: Friendship After Loss - the impact of grief on friendship
Friendship Therapy
Emma Reed Turrell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 20 December 2024
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
Welcome back to this week's episode of Dial Emma! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what we did there?!) You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it.
This week, we hear from a listener who tragically lost her husband when he took his own life, and is now navigating the loss of the friends that they shared in the wake of his death.
In this episode, Emma challenges the societal expectation that friendships can only be joyful, fun, happy spaces, encouraging us all to have open, vulnerable conversations with our friends and evolve and adapt to support each other through loss.
Emma also explores grief in all its complexity and the impact that it can have on friendships, especially when it comes to the emotional challenges of losing a loved one as a result of suicide.
If you have a dilemma for Emma, drop us a voicenote on Instagram @friendshiptherapypod.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to this episode of Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy, the part of the show where you get to, well, dial Emma with your dilemma. |
| 0:09.1 | Yeah, you see what I did there. |
| 0:10.8 | You share your friendship concerns and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. |
| 0:18.7 | Okay, enough from me. Over to you. |
| 0:24.7 | My dilemma is how to deal with the loss of some very old friendships since the suicide of my |
| 0:32.6 | husband. Friends who I have known, we've collectively known for 20 plus years, in fact, longer than that, |
| 0:40.5 | school friends, who just dropped off the face of the earth after the funeral, I guess, |
| 0:46.1 | dealing with their own grief, but just not knowing how to confront mine or how to deal with mine. |
| 0:51.8 | And to a certain extent, I've moved on, but then I feel like I'm also |
| 0:55.8 | grieving the loss of those friendships as well, and just trying to understand why and that feeling |
| 1:03.1 | that now I'm too difficult, I'm too tricky, I don't fit in a neat friendship box for these people. |
| 1:09.7 | And it's really sad. |
| 1:14.5 | I am so sorry for everything you're conveying in your message. |
| 1:22.0 | Grieving the loss of your husband, |
| 1:25.0 | grieving your friendships, trying to understand why, feeling like you're now too difficult, |
| 1:30.7 | you're too tricky, you bring too much trauma. You said it's really sad. And of course, |
| 1:38.5 | it absolutely is, but I can't help noticing just how pissed off I felt when I was listening to your message |
| 1:45.4 | because of how much I wanted to shout at your friends, |
| 1:51.1 | to show up and be there and try harder and not give up on you and not slip away. |
| 2:01.7 | And I suppose I wondered whether that was my anger or yours |
| 2:07.2 | and whether it was towards your friends |
| 2:11.8 | or, and I hope it's okay for me to say this, towards your husband. |
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